Greetings fellow ComixBawses!
Happy Monday 😀
I hope you all enjoyed your week!! If you’ve been keeping up with me on social media you already know that my #ComicReadOfTheWeek was Snotgirl: Green Hair Don’t Care Volume 1 ,which was penned and illustrated by Bryan Lee O’Malley and Leslie Hung, respectively. To be honest, I thought the story was kind of just meh. It wasn’t awful, but it wasn’t particularly amazing either. I’ll go into a little more detail about that later. As you know, I don’t enjoy retelling stories because I think it’s a waste of time and it’s just not fun for me to write and I also think it would be a bit boring for you all because it would totally eliminate the thrill factor of reading something new.
Anyway, here’s a little background on the story: Lottie Person is a super famous fashion blogger. She sports neon green hair and many young women are super jealous of her seemingly fantastic life . . . and she has really nice boobs. I was actually a little jealous of her rack. Anyway, what people don’t know is that she suffers from horrendous allergies (hence the title Snotgirl) and she drives herself a little crazy trying to hide her insecurities, her health issues, and her emotions from her followers. Lastly, she may or may not have killed someone. I’m still not even sure yet, because I’ve only read the first volume of this series. [Don’t worry, that wasn’t a spoiler, this was right on the back cover of the book!]
Okay so, you’re probably wondering what Cardi B has to do with ANY of this. Well . . . she doesn’t. At least she doesn’t have anything to do with the actual story, but she has A LOT to do with the topic of social media authenticity. I recently read a Cosmo article interview with Cardi B and I thought it was great because it was not only entertaining, but her realness was very refreshing to me! If you don’t know who Cardi B is, let me tell you a little bit about her. She’s a stripper, turned reality tv star, turned rapper. Let me tell ya, this chick has absolutely NO filter! Like literally none and she never apologizes for it. To be honest, I like that about her because I can tell she’s being herself. Anyone who knows me, knows that I DESPISE fake people! If you’re an asshole let me know immediately so I can curve you and if you’re not an asshole please please please don’t pretend to be one—it doesn’t make you hotter or cooler, it just makes you really annoying to be around!
So, after reading both Cardi B’s interview and Snotgirl, here’s what I’ve learned:
1. INAUTHENTICITY IS REALLY REALLY F*CKING HARD TO KEEP UP ON A REGULAR BASIS
Lottie is constantly trying to keep up an image of perfection even though she knows that she’s not being real with her followers. She aims to make everyone think that she has the perfect life. When I first began blogging (a little over a year ago) I ran a beauty blog and I thought it was going to be something that I’d really enjoy until I realized that I didn’t care about makeup as much as I thought I did. Don’t get me wrong, it’s definitely fun to play with pretty colors, but I didn’t like having to keep trying new makeup looks all the time because they take forever to do and I just didn’t want to spend so much of my time doing that. For a while I pretended that I loved it, but . . . I was absolutely miserable. Eventually I started posting less and less because it started to drain me. Even though I didn’t post as much, I felt that I had to keep going because I already had some followers; I didn’t want to disappoint anyone or feel like a failure. I wasn’t being myself and I could feel that I was being inauthentic. Eventually, I had to quit that blog to do what I loved—which is what you’re reading now. Some unsolicited advice that I’d give to any newbie blogger is that if you’re not writing about what you love, then your blog will suck the life out of you. You’ll feel like you’re blogging for other people, not for yourself and that feeling really f*cking sucks! Be you. People will either love you, hate you, or they’ll learn to love you.
2. INAUTHENTICITY IS HELLA BORING!
Despite the fact that Lottie is one of the top fashion bloggers in the world with over 2 million followers, she sometimes feels the need to emulate other bloggers, particularly the gorgeous brunette blogger named Caroline who Lottie nicknamed “Coolgirl”—yeah I thought that name was dumb too. Heh.
Lottie is always comparing herself to either Caroline or her equally fake friends who she calls “Normgirl” and “Cutegirl”—I’m not even going to bother to comment on those ones. She doesn’t focus on creating meaningful relationships with anyone, she just likes to look good standing next to people—yeah she actually said that. I couldn’t believe how vapid and superficial that statement was. Like, who actually chooses friends or lovers based on what they look like standing next to you? I’m taller than my boyfriend and I could totally care less if people think that makes us look awkward together. Love is love and friendship is friendship, just enjoy it.
What makes inauthenticity really boring to me is that everyone and everything starts looking the same until it all blends together in a messy blob of boringness. The thing that I find really unique about people in general is that there’s only one of each person I meet. To me, that’s always been super cool and it’s awesome to know that there’s no one else on the planet like me; I feel special! I’m happy to see more and more people reveling in their own beauty, their own style, and their own uniqueness . . . it really is a much needed breath of fresh air! 🙂
3. EVEN IF IT DOESN’T SEEM LIKE IT NOW, PEOPLE WILL EVENTUALLY ADMIRE YOUR ABILTY TO KEEP IT REAL WITH THEM
When I was younger, I was used to reality being sugarcoated for me. I’m sure a lot of parents do this to protect their kids from the world, but now that I’m an adult, my parents no longer do this and I no longer like that kind of shielding. Yes, it made me feel safe in an unsafe world, but knowing the truth about reality helped me grow and made me stronger. As I said, Cardi B has absolutely no filter and she always speaks what’s on her mind. I don’t look up to her, but I do admire her candidness because at least you know what kind of person she is. You can decide from the very beginning if you plan to deal with her or not. I remember talking to a close friend of mine about a dude she was really into and I kind of sugarcoated how I actually felt about him . . . I thought he was a douchebag, but I wanted to save her feelings. Months later, I eventually admitted that to her and she told me: “we’re friends and I would have really appreciated it if you were honest with me because it would have saved me from wasting time.” That wasn’t the exact quote, but that’s the gist of what she had said. He did turn out to be a d*ck by the way if you were still wondering. From that experience, I learned that it’s always better to let people know your true feelings.
Cardi B is real about sex, her love life, and how she fears failure. She doesn’t want to one day be regarded as a one-hit-wonder. I personally don’t think that will be the case, but I could see why that would be really scary for her. She doesn’t pretend to have it together 24/7 and she shows that there are times when she’s angry, vulnerable, or sad. I really appreciate when people remain authentic because it allows me to see the real them and when that happens I know that we can eventually form an unbreakable bond. I try everyday to make sure that I’m presenting my realest self. One of the best compliments I’ve received is that “I’m easy to talk to” and “down-to-earth.” I’d never want to lose myself behind a facade just to please other people; Cardi doesn’t and neither will I.
Here are some of Cardi’s brutally honest quotes from her 2018 Cosmo interview:
- “Just because somebody was a stripper don’t mean they don’t have no brain.”
- In response to people not thinking she’s really Black (She’s Trinidadian and Dominicana by the way): “My features, my nose, my lips, the little bit of color that I have, my hair texture—it didn’t come from two White people f*cking each other.”
- In regards to her fiancé Offset from the rap group, Migos who was found in videos with another woman: “I want to work out my sh*t with my man, and I don’t got to explain it to you.”
- And my favorite quote: “Be the b*tch they talking about, not the miserable b*tch doing the talking.”
In short, I can see why she’s as popular as she is and I do like her frankness. In regards to the comic though, I liked what I learned about social media, but I think the story is a bit juvenile and a tad unexciting. I also think the dialogue is so superficial; I get that that’s the point, but it just makes it a little hard for me to read. In the beginning I didn’t mind it so much, but it’s like that throughout the whole story. So yeah . . . meh. I still think you all should give it a go because this is just my opinion . . . you may truly enjoy it!
I give Snotgirl a rating of:
★★★☆☆ (3/5 stars)
What are your thoughts about remaining authentic? Have you ever had trouble doing so? Do you admire people who’s lives look perfect or do you find that it’s hard for you to relate to them? Tell me about a time when you felt like had no choice but to be inauthentic? How did it make you feel? What do you think of Cardi B’s quotes? Do you agree/disagree with her views?
Let me know in the comments!
Featured Photo: L: Cardi B [Courtesy of Complex via Love & PR]/ R: Lottie Person [Courtesy of Image Comics]